I was married August 9, 2008 to the love of my life. But the road to the big day proved to be as stressful as giving birth, which I will post next.
I’m re-posting my old but you can learn a thing or two Bridal gown kabaliwan that went down a little over a month before my wedding day. This is taken from the email i sent to Weddings at Work E-Group.
I never expected that at my last stretch of wedding preparation mararanasan ko ito. My Bridal gown is a total nightmare. My mananahi was recommended by my Boss who did her gown for her wedding. She was all praises. I saw her wedding gown and it was great, her entourage was equally impressing as well. So I set a meeting and discussed with her the budget I had for my bridal/entourage gowns. All was agreed. She said we’ll have 3 fittings, by June of this year all the gowns will be done. We spoke January of this year. I was always on time with the payments, with the first fitting. I tried to arrange schedules for my entourage to meet her on the days she is available. The only mistake I made was I placed my full trust in her. I said, I want duchess na tela. The duchess that I know is manipis and not shiny. She said ok, my gown should be fully embroidered, sweetheart cut sa chest and lace straps. This i repeated with her. She said ok. I asked her regularly hows the gowns, she said ,maganda sya. Pinapaembroider ko. She even texted me, I will put rhinestones and silver to make it glamorous. I was so excited. I only had one fitting, the lining, di na nya pinakita ung tela nagagamitin kasi ok na naman daw. In short wala akong nakita aside from the lining. I even gave her swatches for the entourage (two tone tela).
Come Sunday, yesterday, I went to my h2b’s house. Kita ko agad sa mukha ni FMIL she was mad. Number one her gown was changes. Its supposed to be a one piece with bolero with white sleeves. Kita ko sobrang PLAIN! the beadings were poorly made to top it all iniba nya ang design, ginawa nyang two piece. Maluwag sa dibdib, kita boobies pag nag lean sya. Sabi o adjust, dagdagan ng beads kasi ang napagusapan namin madaming amdaming beads kasi sya ang mother of the groom. When I saw the entourage, DISASTER, everything was plain. dalawang gown lang ung maganda ung tube pa. Kakasad! Yung pang flower girls It was so tacky hindi un ung tela na sinabi ko,hindi un ung cut at nilagyan nya ng sequence na flower with a bad yellow color. Sabi ko ano yan? bakit ganyan parang daster! Ngayon wedding gown ko, sis the only thing na masasabi ko, I remember during my St. Theresa’s days gumawa kami ng apron for Home Ed, ang ginamit naming tela is tetoron. OMG, mukhang ganun ung tela. Ang embroidery ang pangit! ang beads ang cheap! Hindi ko makita ang rhinestones. I specifically asked for a corset type of gown, mga sis naka zipper sya! zipper! ang bone nya hanggang breast part lang. Nung finit sa akin ang liit, I already lost 5 pounds since our fitting, dapat mas maluwag sya. Pinipigil ko luha ko at that point. I can only describe the gown as Dirty, looks old and crumpled. My FMIL was so furious, sabi nya I don’t care about my gown anymore, but her gown (me) being the bride is PANGIT! Mas marami pang magaganda sa Divi at mas mura. Hindi nagsasalita yung mananahi. So when the old lady left, I gave her 5k part of my installment and cried. nagpanic parents ni h2b, agad agad kami kumain and asked me do you want we’ll buy you a gown and ipagawa mo na ung retoke sa iba. I said ok, my eyes were swollen shut because of the tears. We went to divi. Inikot namin yun, the funny part is h2b’s dad known to be sobrang maarte kasi may pagka sosyal sya sumama sa amin sa divi. It was his first time to go there. Sabi nga ni H2b, biruin mo ikaw lang ang nagpapunta ng divi sa Daddy ko. Out of all the gowns there I only connected with one gown, a haltered ecru colored gown. Sabi ko if this doesn’t fit me, I have no choice but go to a designer and have a gown made in 2 weeks. Which made me feel horrible. Isipin mo gown na paspasan! When I fitted the gown, it was perfect on me. Its an rtw gown h2b’s mom Hugged me and said, tingnan mo pinaiyak ka muna.
We went to Tita Carmen of Carmen Lazaro’s sa goldcreat glorietta and pinakita ko sa kanya yung gowns. Family friend kasi sila ng asawa ng Ate ko, her only comment sa gown na niyari for me was “That gown is hopeless, wala na tayo ireretoke sa kanya. As for the rtw that one has hope.” They agreed to do the beading for me and added detail. I asked her na ayusin narin the rest of the entourage. She agreed. Sabi nya by Friday my gown will be ready. As for the entourage after a week. I have a guardian angel guiding me!
Lesson learned. Wag magpaka cheap dapat magpaka reasonable. Dapat batayan ang yari ng gown. At dapat maging OC na ako.
Sorry for the long read. Pro mga Sis, totoo pala yun, disasters do happen lalo na sa last stretch ng wedding preparation. If I can only turn back time, I would have had my gown made at Tita Carmen’s. Sigurado pa ako. Yung mananahi ko is a small time dressmaker in Nova. Ayaw ko na imention. I’m sure wala nakakakilala sa kanya. Nasa house yung gown, hindi ko sya matingnan ng matagalan. It breaks my heart.
In the end, I spoke to the mananahi and stressed to her my points and told her I’m not paying for the gown. Ayaw ko. Isosoli ko sa kanya. Pumayag na sya kasi sabi ko ” Manang, 3 linggo nalang po kasal ko ala pa akong isusuot , hindi ko po talga isusuot ang gown na ginawa nyo sa akin”. Take note hindi sya nag sorry sa akin ako pag nagsorry sa kanya. Bwisit sya!
Supplier rating ko sa gumawa ng entou and gown ko 0 – ZEROOOOOOOO falFAAAAKkk
So… its my turn to save people from Horror stories like this.
For happiness sake I would suggest for those bride to be’s na wala pang gown/or
in the making pa ang gown na ito ang critical points to consider:
1. Designer? Mananahi? Divi? – check your budget. You only get to wear your
bridal gown once,so make sure its not over the top expensive. But, make sure
that its worth remembering. There is no harm in asking, compromise with your
gown maker, kaya po ba
sa budget na ito ang gown? Wag kayong pumayag na ok lang ang sagot
nila. Dapat may assurance. Isipin ang market, minsan ang flufluctuate ang
2. tela/cloth of the bridal gown – its best to take a side trip to a tela shop
and see the difference. Look if it matches/compliments your complexion. Make
sure that you see that tela is bagay to the design that you want. You also look
at the price, tingnan mo magkano sya per yard and kung gaano kadami ang
gagamitin sa iyo. At least you’ll have an idea if they designer is over pricing
you for the tela alone.
3. Design! Design! – Hindi lahat ng magagandang gown sa internet bagay sa iyo.
For me, nagustuhan ko nga yung sweetheart cut, but mas bagay sa akin yung
haltered because of my broad shoulders. Better consult a good designer for
this. Pwede rin yung punta ka sa Divi tpos magsusukat ka ng mga gowns na bagay.
I think there is no harm in that since its not your actual wedding gown you’re
trying on. Mag fashion show ka sa mga tindera. Nung nag fit ako, syempre ala
naman dressing rooms dun, mga passersby tumigil at nanuod. Feeling ko tuloy I’m
under a microscope. Hehe, pro that time, parang manhid na yung hiya ko.
Desperado na eh.
4. Details – isipin nyo anong maganda na deteils ng gown. Embroidered? Beads?
Lace? Quality of the materials. Yung taiwan made beads are the ones na madaling
mangitim (yun ang narinig ko), so ask your designer or mananahi for the options
that you have.
5. Wag kayong pumayag na 1 fitting lang – multiple fittings is worth all the
pagod. If you feel na tamad ka na mag fitting isipin mo that you need to look
your best on the big day. If it looks great at first it may not look great
after a few revisions.
6. Go with your gut feel. This I did not follow. Para kasing napasubo ako
kasi sa Boss ko. Kaya kung di mo feel pagmumukha nung gumagawa wag mong ituloy.
Kasalanan ata nya lahat to! Joke…
Looking back, all the tears are worth it. Also..ang payat ko dati. yun lang. haha!